5 Ways to Stay Confident Single

single and on a missionAll I know is one minute there was no cute boy next to me. And before I could say “abracadabra,” there was. Mr. Blackhawks Knit Cap kept pace with me, brown hair sticking out around his ears. Nose red. Eyes bright.

Not that I noticed.

With my knee, I hefted the box higher in my grip. Maybe I should’ve split this in two trips.

Mr. Blackhawks Knit Cap stretched his arms. “Let me carry—”

I swiveled on my boot heels. “I’ve got it. I’ve got it.”

Like, it’s not like I’m a feminist. But when I’ve lugged two semesters worth of textbooks across campus and can see the store, so help me, I’m going to get there myself.

Mr. Blackhawks Knit Cap held up his glove-less hands in surrender. “Just trying to be a gentleman.”

I puffed my bangs and slid a look to him, maybe noticing a snowflake had caught on his long eyelashes.

“You can get the door.” I nodded up ahead at the student union.

“Wonderful.” He rolled his eyes and pocketed his hands.

Step. Step. Step. Step.

“Look….” He rubbed the back of his neck. “I hate to tell you this. But you’re carrying it wrong.”

“Really?” I quirked a brow.

“Here. Let me show you….” He popped and jerked the box out of my arms. Grinning, he said, “Like this.”


Mr. Blackhawks Knit Cap charged forward. “You can get the door.”

Cue the credits. That, dear person reading, is what I call a good flirting session.

There are a couple of things I do to keep loneliness from drying up all the love for my single life. Number one happens to be flirting with myself.

1. Flirt with yourself.

Don’t think of it as vain. Think of it as practice. And practice makes perfect.

Princess Diaries 2: Royal Engagement lends the perfect example. The practice…

The perfect…

2. Spend time with dear, old Dad.

Chuck BartowskiAs it turns out, studies show that hanging out with Dad slows sexual maturity. In the Christian Marriage 101 course, my professor explained that dads give off an odor. Said odor makes you less boy crazy.

Over Christmas break, he got me addicted to Chuck. We discuss things. You know, stuff….  Why Chuck’s lack of ambition bothers me. Why Dad thinks Chuck’s loyalty makes up for his shortcomings.

We also take turns whipping each other at Scrabble. (I am the current champion if anyone wants to know.)

Plus, Dad…. He’s the gold standard when it comes to guys. So chilling with him is a surefire way not to let my standards tank.

3. Keep a full schedule.

I’ll never get over being single. Honestly, there’s something to being in a relationship with only me, myself, and I. My calendar is packed with dinner dates, meetings, plans to do nothing, etc.

It’s not about being busy. It’s about having a full life.

4. Read, watch, and listen to romance.

It’s not wrong for a woman to want a little romance in her life.

During the month of November, I played While You Were Sleeping three times with the alternate showings of Sleepless in Seattle and You’ve Got Mail.

Of course, I’m a pretty avid romance reader.

And just in case I forget I’m holding out for a crazy love, I wake up to Hunter Hayes’ I Want Crazy every morn. Although, I must say, sometimes I don’t want crazy. Sometimes I just want five more minutes.

5. Have single goals

If I ever have a shot of being a contestant on The Bachelor, being attached is a no-no.

Enough said.

RaeLynn knows what I’m talking about. Her song Kissin’ Frogs is all about living single life to the fullest.

Curious to know exactly how single you are? Or what kind of single you are? Take the quizzes to find out.

What ways do you stay confident single?


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My name is Nichole—Nichole Parks. Not to be confused with Nicholas Sparks. Nicky boy handles the drama. And me? I take on the trauma. Dark humor is my specialty.

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