Dear Boy in the Future,
There’s this theory I have. Or maybe it’s more of a discussion, the grand debate of soulmates versus multimates. I’ve probably talked about it before. But this is me talking about it again.
The soulmate version, at it’s most basic, is belief in a sole mate. There actually is a The One.
Now what makes this theory so blissfully wonderful is exactly what makes it so detrimental. Since there is only one, you may miss each other. You might commit yourself into marriage and choose a) mate b) mate or c) mate.
Love is certainly a choice. (My friend Ruthie always clarifies this.)
But I believe love chooses for us too. We forget that.
Then there is the multimate perspective. It spins a rather different love story. Basically, there are countless matches which could supply you with an equally rewarding relationship. If you miss a multimate, don’t worry. They rotate shifts. You can’t miss them.
Believing in multimates is the more popular theory. (Even Mom and Dad think this way. Which is just nuts. If any two people were soulmates, it’s my parents. I mean, their love story. Come on.)
People don’t want to even consider missing their one true love. They’d rather subscribe to some figment insurance of multimates. Because what if you marry someone else’s One? What if your romance causes a domino effect?
When really, life is a domino effect.
Love is certainly a choice. I’ll grant you that. However, I can’t. . . I can’t imagine it’s multiple choice. . . and I have a pretty good imagination.
Even if my soulmate theory is totally bogus though, even if I’m wrong, I’m wrong about the rest of the world. Not you and me.
– Your Girl